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Why is alexandrite considered a widow s stone?

Although alexandrite was named so in 1842 in honor of the heir to the throne – the future Alexander II, it was known earlier: in the XNUMXth century, a Polovtsian khan was buried in Zaporozhye, on whose ring finger archaeologists found a gold ring with alexandrite. After its discovery in the Urals, Alexandrite became extremely popular and fashionable; the change in color greatly contributed to the creation of an aura of mystery around this stone. In daylight it is green, and in artificial light (in the evening) it is dark red. These colors were the original colors of the Russian state standard, so alexandrite was worn by all high society. In Europe, it became a symbol of amorousness and jealousy, again thanks to the phenomenon of dichroism. However, after the terrible death of Emperor Alexander II, this stone acquired mourning symbolism in Russia, and monarchists wore rings with alexandrite, symbolizing commitment to the imperial house.
Russian writer Nikolai Leskov, traveling around the Czech Republic, met the lapidary and stone expert Wenzel. The impressions from the acquaintance resulted in the story “Alexandrite”. One evening, when Leskov came to Wenzel’s studio, he saw a ring with alexandrite on his hand and grabbed the writer’s hand, crying out: “My sons! Czechs! Hurry! Look, here is that prophetic Russian stone that I told you about! Tricky Siberian! It was all green, like hope, and by evening it was covered in blood. Look what kind of stone it is! It contains a green morning and a bloody evening. This is fate, this is the fate of the noble Tsar Alexander!” Another name for alexandrite – widow’s stone – is associated with the sad story of the liberating emperor.
Only in Russia is alexandrite still undeservedly considered a stone of sadness and loneliness, a stone that brings misfortune. The roots of this superstition must be sought in the psychophysiological perception of color, especially red, often associated with the color of blood. This perception of red stones is common, take garnet or ruby ​​for example; People associate red color not only with blood, but also with flame, passion, aggression, active energy of life and danger. The fact that this color in alexandrite has its own semantic opposite – green – makes such a strong impression. Green is calm, relaxation, quiet energy of life; this color has a positive effect on people’s well-being. These two colors are the brightest in the spectrum and the most dissimilar. When people still could not explain the change in color of the stone, they said that it was turning from emerald to amethyst.
According to the Indian school of astrology, the appearance of a yellow tint in the color of a stone warns its owner of danger or illness; alexandrite has strong energy and only after the owner of the stone passes the test will he be able to fully experience the beneficial effects of the stone. The change in shades is also attributed to depending on the mood of the owner According to popular belief, people with an unstable psyche and lack of self-confidence should not wear the stone: the trials it attracts. Like red stones, alexandrite is considered capable of influencing the state of the circulatory system; it was even used in the treatment of anemia. Wearing the ring helped improve blood clotting, and the bracelet helped cleanse it. Source: The Silver Age poet Teffi, who was very fond of precious stones, wrote about alexandrite: And it turns pale and burns: Teasing the mind with a forbidden game, Seduces the treasured two-color, A deceitful dream – alexandrite. You two-color, play! Play! Know everything – both sin and heaven! “In just a few lines, the author managed to express the very essence of the legends about alexandrite: it is two-faced, changeable, as if it could really turn from an angel into a demon. The play of color gives both alexandrite and opal their unique character; they are too beautiful to be an ordinary, everyday thing, and seem to be inhabitants of a world not of ours. But they are creations of nature, which means they are nature and beauty itself, which cannot cause harm, but, on the contrary, give the joy of life, rising above human superstitions. @TANNA@ANNA@Supreme Intelligence (142085) 11 years ago THANKS.
Very interesting!! Other answers Since ancient times, precious stones have been endowed by people with various mysterious properties. They were both positive and negative, and very often had to do with influencing a person’s future. Some properties appeared as a result of centuries-old traditions, but it also happened vice versa – some traditions appeared due to old superstitions. One of the most unpleasant magical properties attributed to some precious stones is the attraction of loneliness and death of loved ones, because of which a woman risked becoming a widow. Such stones were popularly called “widow’s stones.”

Which stone is considered a widow’s stone?

There are few stones with such a bad reputation. Most experts are inclined to believe that there are only five of them – amethyst, alexandrite, garnet, pearl and topaz. But it should be noted that some of these stones are considered widow’s stones only in Russia, and in the West or East, on the contrary, some other stones are also considered widow’s stones.


This gem is a very valuable stone, along with rubies, sapphires and diamonds. It is valued for its unique feature – pronounced pleochroism, a change in color depending on the lighting: in daylight, alexandrite is blue-green or olive green, and in the rays of artificial light it becomes red-violet, purple or pink-crimson. Alexandrite has earned a bad reputation only in our country, having received the title of widow’s stone. Researchers believe that this is due to the fact that the USSR produced a lot of synthetic cheap alexandrites, which were very popular among women, and after the end of the Great Patriotic War, many of them remained widows. So a random combination of facts led to the fact that this stone began to be considered unlucky. Modern esotericists are of the opinion that it is illogical to consider it a widow’s stone: outside the territory of the former USSR no one calls it that. On the contrary, it is a gem with positive and strong energy, which attracts success in business and helps to maintain love relationships, and does not at all condemn you to widowhood.


The story with this stone is about the same as with alexandrite. If you start to find out why amethyst is called the widow’s stone, it will become clear that this is also a combination of unrelated facts and traditions. The fact is that this mineral is unlucky with color. In the East, purple is considered the color of death, and in the West, in the Middle Ages, purple clothes were worn at the funerals of monarchs and members of their families. Because of this, there is a widespread opinion that purple symbolizes melancholy and sorrow, and death and sorrow are not far from classifying amethyst as a widow’s stone. Interestingly, in modern times, this purple-colored gemstone is the widow’s stone in a softer form and is not considered to attract trouble. For example, it is not customary to give it to married or engaged girls, not because of impending widowhood, but because amethyst evokes strong love for the giver. Amethyst is also credited with the ability to preserve love, including departed love, so widows often wear rings with this gem in order to forever preserve their love for their deceased husband and not let other men into their hearts. As you can see, amethyst is considered a stone that influences love and attitude towards the opposite sex, but is not a harbinger of loneliness.


Pearls have been associated with the widow’s stone for a long time and firmly. He actually has an interesting story. On the one hand, pearls have always and everywhere been considered a symbol of purity and purity, and they were often used to decorate the bride’s dress; on the other hand, young girls were not recommended to wear them. There was an opinion that pearls have the ability to depress emotions and reduce the level of sexual energy, therefore preventing the establishment of romantic relationships and marriage. At the same time, wearing this stone after the wedding was also considered a bad omen for the same reasons of suppressing emotions and sensuality. It turned out that pearls, for all their positive qualities, could only be safely worn by the bride, otherwise they could prevent a relationship from developing or destroy an existing one. Another reason why the belief that pearls are widow’s stones has been strengthened is because of the ancient belief regarding black pearls. Previously, people believed that black pearls were the tears of the sea, so there was a tradition of wearing them by widowed women as a sign of eternal sadness and grief for a deceased lover. Accordingly, if a woman wore black pearls while not yet a widow, it was considered as attracting misfortune to herself. Eastern traditions, by the way, very gracefully avoided this problem. In the East, both regular and black pearls lost all their unpleasant properties if they were set in gold, because gold, as is known, destroys the negative energy of any precious stones. Later, they used another trick – they “deceived” black pearls by setting them not in gold, but in a cheaper metal painted in a golden color.


As in the case of pearls, garnet has positive magical properties that can turn negative, and ancient beliefs are superimposed on all this. Firstly, pomegranates have long been considered a symbol of mourning. Jewelry with them is worn on days of mourning for the deceased. Wearing mourning stones for no reason means teasing fate and inviting misfortune upon oneself. Secondly, in some cultures (for example, in Ancient Rome and Ancient Greece), the pomegranate as a fruit is a symbol of the kingdom of the dead. Accordingly, a stone named after the symbol of the kingdom of the dead can attract death, including making its owner a widow. This also includes the fact that garnets, with their rich red color, resemble drops of blood, which are also associated with death. Thirdly, this mineral has always been considered very strong energetically, and it was also credited with the ability to strengthen love and passion. But, as you know, stones with strong energy can only be tamed by those who are strong in spirit, otherwise the gem takes power into its own hands and can lead its owner along the path it sees fit. The garnet gemstone is considered a widow’s stone in many countries, but often this property extends only to the darkest stones with rich colors.


Many esotericists call topaz a stone of self-sufficiency. It is capable of giving the owner a feeling of complete inner harmony, but this often requires giving up vivid emotions, including love. In this regard, topaz earned the name widow’s stone – a married woman wearing it risked becoming so self-sufficient that the energy of the stone drove her husband to the grave. As for young unmarried girls, their topaz could persuade them not to enter into romantic relationships at all. Legends also attributed to topaz the bad reputation of a stone that deprives one of emotions when used by a black magician. Such sorcerers lured into their networks people who had lost faith in the future, and with the help of topaz they deprived them of their inner aspirations, desires and feelings in order to use them for their own purposes. Of course, this is just a superstition, but this was enough for topaz to become entrenched in the minds of the masses as a widow’s stone.

How to wear

Personal preferences and beliefs are very important here. Even materialists in many walks of life may not want to wear a widow’s stone for the same reason that they don’t like a black cat crossing the road – just in case, so to speak. From this point of view, it can be recommended to avoid wearing such gems in the most risky moments of your life – for example, immediately after marriage, when every little thing may seem very important and you do not want to neglect even the minimal probability that wearing a stone may attract misfortune. If those who have lost their husband or wife want to emphasize their status, they can wear jewelry with one of the widow’s stones. According to most traditions, it is desirable to have a silver frame for it.


Even people who consider themselves experts in this field do not have a clear opinion about which stone is called a widow’s stone. Depending on national and cultural traditions, some, others, and others can be considered widow’s stones. This does not mean that you need to give up all jewelry with any gems. If you like the stone for its appearance and does not cause negative emotions, you can purchase and wear it, despite any superstitions.

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